Do you mean:
Are you flexing to release? On an easy slope, try skiing across the hill on the inside edge LTE of your downhill ski. Relax that leg and ski on the outside edge (LTE) of the uphill ski without extending that leg. Retract the downhill let more as you tip it and tip it more and retract it more and come around in a turn. Repeat, repeat. Concentrate on what your outside leg is doing...extending or retracting (flexing).
On the steep icy stuff, do you engage your new inside edges before your skis are aimed down the fall line? This is the upper third of the turn, the High C. You need to tip and get your body over your skis to get the new inside edges engaged while you are in that upper third of the turn. And the front half of the inside edge of the new outside ski. You must strongly pull both feet back behind you as you begin your turn Like the Pull back and tip exercise from the essential DVD?) and strongly pull the inside foot back all the time through the turn.
In all case i think your message is to develop the skill to stay on the LTE of the new outside ski as long as possible to develop the High C of the turn . Rightt?
I've observed recently that I have not developped completely that skill.